What is My Role as Woman?

God was truly speaking to my heart this last weekend as I was still wondering what my role is as a woman.  I'm not just talking about a role of cooking, cleaning, and doing the laundry.  I am talking about my God-given role as a woman.  What role does God want me to take on in any kind of relationship with a man?  Well I think I finally found some answers!  On Sunday evening, I watched a video called "A Man and His Wife."  Now I am definitely far from being married, but it provided the answers I needed to this question about my role.  I have included a link to the site where this video is found.  Please check it out!  http://www.hcbc.com/men/journeymen-online-resources/

First, God created woman to be a helper!  Being a helper does not meant that we, as women, are worth any more or less than men.  We are equal with them, created to fulfill different roles and responsibilities in life.  Let me show you Genesis 2:18.  "The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”  Now keep in mind that this verse says it was not good for man to be alone.  This doesn't mean Adam was lonely; it means he needed someone to help him accomplish what the Lord God had planned.  What an honor to be created as a helper!

Next, it is vitally important for us to understand that part of a man's role is to lead: to lead us, to lead the church, and to lead others.  One thing I seriously misunderstood was what men's leadership really is.  Men's leadership is more about meeting the needs of a woman than anything else.  We must admit that, as women, we try to act like we don't need anything.  When asked, "What can I get for you?" we all typically reply with an "Oh nothing.  I am fine."  Stop pretending you don't need anything!  If you need something, be honest with the men in your life, and tell them.  If we refuse to tell them our needs, they will go through life believing that we just don't trust them with what we need.  Men need to know we trust them and respect them enough to be completely honest with our needs. 

Also, the men in our lives need to know that we admire them.  I was absolutely astounded to hear that most men do not need to hear "I love you" as often as we think they do.  They prefer to hear "I trust you because...," "I respect you because...," "I believe in you because...," and "I will follow you wherever you go."  We are here to help encourage them and be their cheerleaders, if you will.  No more nagging!  Words of encouragement will help them succeed far more than nagging ever will!  Maybe this sounds silly, but men really do need to know that we trust them, respect them, believe in them, and will follow their leadership abilities.  So make it a priority to change your "I love you's" into "I trust you's."

Finally, don't forget that you are held partially responsible for the faith of your partner.  Find ways to help him keep a Christ-centered focus.  Always be willing to talk with him about things God is telling you.  Involve him in your faith!  Encourage him daily in his faith.

This goes for any type of man and woman relationship: husband & wife, father & daughter, mother & son, and dating.  Yes mothers, your sons still need your respect! 

I know I learned SO much from all of these things!  I hope you do as well!  God bless!